OK Moms & Dads, Let's get real. Parenthood is one of the toughest and most rewarding jobs you'll ever love. It's a 24/7 committment that you've made for the next 20 or so years of your life...and for most of us, that's in addition to our day jobs. It's no wonder so many of us are walking around like burnt out zombies.
It's OK to feel a bit overwhelmed...It happens to all of us.
As parents we want to be our best at all times for our kids. But it's really hard to do that when we're burning the candle at both ends. We simply cannot be the best parents we can be when we're exhausted.
Sometimes we need a grown up vacation - a vacation from being parents!
There, I said it. I don't meant to stir the pot of controversy. It's just that sometimes, when we're so busy trying to be everything to everybody, we forget about taking care of ourselves. All of us need a break in the action to unwind and recharge our batteries. It's healthy and normal to need a little time for ourselves.
I'm not talking about running away to a deserted island until your kids are in college (although at times, this can be a very tempting thought....I'm just kidding, but we've all had "those" days). Even quick grown up weekends or a few days alone can do wonders for a change in attitude.
Of course, to really relax and recharge your batteries parents shouldn't take a guilt trip. This can be especially challenging for moms. It's ok. You deserve a guilt free mom's getaway. As much as we love them, infants are exhausting. When another person is so dependant on you for their survival, it is often hard to even think about leaving your baby in the care of another person. Just bear in mind, this is a natural process. Some moms really struggle with this and it is completely understandable. You will know when the time is right for the both of you. Do not feel guilty about it. Again you need to recharge to be the best mom you can be. Sometimes, it's as simply as a full night's sleep.
Hopefully you're the type of parents that have the support of nearby relatives or very trustworthy friends who are willing to help. A couple days at Grandma's house can be a fun adventure for the kids and a guilt free way for the two of you to enjoy a little alone time. A quiet dinner and adult conversation can do wonders for your romance.
If you don't have nearby friends or family to help with child care, then talk to your partner and work it out as a team. Perhaps Dad can be in charge while mom enjoys a girlfriend getaway. Later mom takes over while Dad has some alone time with his buddies. Again, these grown up getaways do not have to be costly or extravagant but ultimately they can be invaluable for your sanity and peace of mind.
Even if you're planning a family vacation all together with the kids, it's important to strike a balance. Talk to your vacationkids consultant and be honest if you need a little break from being a parent. We can help arrange a vacation with the right kind of child care that will be fun for the kids while giving you a well deserved break. Sometimes scheduling something as simple as allowing Dad a fishing trip or giving mom an hour off in the spa can really help to recharge the batteries.
So please, don't let the name "Vacationkids" fool you. Yes, we specialize in family vacations with the kids. But we're parent's too. As travel professionals, we also know all about those adult only spots, romantic retreats and perfect girlfriend getaway spots. Just ASK and we'd be glad to help.
Treating yourself to a grown up vacation and a little adult company can do wonders for your attitude. Allowing yourself the time to rest, relax and recharge will help you to be more balanced, healthy and ultimately the best parent you can be for your kids.